‘Judge not, lest ye be judged’. This religious idea confused me for a long time. In fact, it created havoc in my system because I found the judgement of others to be a perfectly natural thing. It’s what human beings do, every last one of us. We do it through the justice system, we do it through the religions of the world. We do it in our communities. It’s a part of our nature and it’s as essential to us as eating, drinking and breathing. It is a protective mechanism, a critical safety and security measure against the evils of the world. It is a hazard to the health NOT to judge others. And it is hazardous on a spiritual, emotional AND physical level.
When we are first introduced to another, we are subconsciously guarded. We instinctively assess whether or not this new person is a danger to us, either physically, emotionally or spiritually. It is based on this judgement whether or not we enter into further relationship with each other. Even as WordPress bloggers, we tend to check out the ‘About’ section on other people’s blogs first. We need to know who they are, if there are similarities. We want to know if these people will hurt us in some way, if there is some kind of ‘danger’ in associating with particular people. Judgement is a natural human instinct that is occurring within us whether we like it or not.
On a very simplistic level, unless we judge both other people’s behaviours, and our own, we have no benchmark on which to measure the idea of ‘good’ in the world. In watching someone’s cruelty to another, and observing the emotionally devastating result of it, we can safely establish that cruelty is not an activity we want to engage in. My parents were unkind to me as a child, and through my judgment of their behaviour, I became a kind and loving mother myself. Throughout my life, I met incredibly good people who were role-models for me in my quest to re-establish my sense of Divinity. To know what I wanted to be, I had to judge these people’s behaviours against those of the people who had hurt both myself and who hurt others. To go on to emulate ‘good’, I also had to judge what was ‘bad’.
My most profound learning point was in finding that everything in the universe is interconnected. I discovered through keen observation and meticulous study that we all gravitate towards each other through our commonalities. Like attracts like, in other words, whether it is the environment we live in, the food that is available to us, the animals we keep or the people who are in our lives. We all have something in common, and it is through these common attributes that we learn who we are. In judging everything around me, I see myself in full view. I can only fail myself when I judge someone or something and I refuse to see the reflection in my own nature.