For me, there is nothing more emotionally healing than human touch. When we touch each other, there is an energy exchange in which our spiritual connection is recognized at a subconscious level. We human beings have a deep need for acknowledgement from those around us, we have a need to have our lives validated by others and we have a deep yearning to be loved. We simply cannot survive without each other.
Through living in South Africa for 13 years, I learned about the spirit of ‘Ubuntu’ which exists within the African people. Ubuntu means, ‘I am because of you’. This acknowledgement of the interconnectedness of human beings lies at the basis of the African sense of community, their close family ties and their lasting friendships. In the African mindset, the individual is part of a whole, and it is the whole that is served first and foremost. Individuals who put themselves before the community are seen in a poor light, and where the behaviour is extreme, as in the case of criminal activity, they are severely punished.
Every now and again, Life shows us our interconnectedness; it shows us how much we need each other, and lets us know how important touch is in our healing journey. Do you remember the story of Jackson twins in 1995? The picture might jog your memory:
Twin girls, Brielle and Kyrie, were born 12 weeks prematurely to Heidi and Paul Jackson in October 17, 1995. Kyrie weighed 2 pounds three ounces, while Brielle weighed only two pounds. At the neonatal intensive care unit at The Medical Center of Central Massachusetts in Worcester, they were placed in separate incubators in order to reduce the risk of infection.
Kyrie thrived, putting on weight daily, while Brielle struggled with her life. She had breathing problems and her heart-rate was problematic. She showed low oxygen levels and she seemed unable to gain weight like her sister. On November 12, Brielle began gasping for breath, her heart-rate went up drastically and her tiny body turned a deadly shade of blue. In spite of all the usual medical assistance, Brielle was not responding. The doctors and her parents thought she was going to die. One of the nurses present suddenly recalled a procedure that had multiple-birth babies placed in the same bed. It was commonly used in Europe and was effective…or so she had heard. She put Brielle in the same cot with her sister to see if it would work.
As the incubator door closed, Brielle snuggled up to Kyrie. Immediately, her heart rate slowed and her breathing calmed. Kyrie placed her arm over Brielle, and they lay like this together until Brielle returned to normal. Very quickly, Brielle began to thrive and soon they were home with their parents.
So, my friends, remember to hug your loved ones, your friends and your neighbours. Touch people in a natural, non-invasive way to let them know you care. Touch transmits love, and love heals everything.